4 Must Discuss Topics Before Your Wedding

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So, now that you are officially engaged and you have the wedding to plan along with your fiancé, the time period between the engagement and the wedding sets the stage for your relationship in the future. Now, is a good time to discuss a few topics that are certain to be floating around and to be honest with each other. Having said that, the two of you also need to take a decision on the kind of boundaries to set in the relationship as well. Here are the 4 must discuss topics that you and your fiancé need to get talking about:

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The Guest List

Everybody has a different take on the appropriate number of guests to invite to a wedding. Depending on who is funding the wedding, this needs to be a mutual decision. If the two of you are pitching in for the wedding as well, then you both definitely have a say in the number of people to invite too. Oh, and don’t hesitate to give a fixed number to both sets of parents just in case you feel that the wedding guest list is seriously getting out of control.

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The Bachelor Party

As a bride, you don’t want to be the spoilsport by saying no to his bachelor party but on the other hand, the wild crazy stories one hears is already beginning to stress you out. That’s exactly why this is a must discuss topic. If you have any apprehensions about ‘what could happen’ at the party or ‘what he is likely to do’, talk it out. It’s always better to share your concerns and fears than act like you don’t care while all the while, you’re actually aching inside. You’ll get a good idea about the kind of husband he will be, depending upon how he soothes your fears. If he is able to put you at ease, then trust his moral judgement.

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Ex Relationships

This is a highly touchy topic and yet one that is a must discuss for obvious reasons. If you would rather not bring up this subject at all, then let the door be firmly closed on the past but remember that bringing up the topic of exes after you two are officially wed will do more damage. Irrespective of the reasons why old relationships didn’t work out, you both need to talk about how to take your present relationship forward. It’s important to hear each other out and to address any concerns even if they seem small or insignificant.

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Money Concerns

Neither of you should walk into marriage without having a clear idea about how much the other earns. Bringing up the ‘salary’ topic before you get married is not an indication that you are an insecure or a greedy person. On the other hand, by discussing personal savings, investments and having a financial plan for the future, it gives you two a chance to work as a team and to set future goals. Don’t shy away from this must discuss topic although we do recommend that you discuss this in private.

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