Planning a bachelor party or a hen party falls entirely on the grooms and bride’s closest friends. Over the past few weeks, we’ve looked at different ways in which a bachelor party can be planned and also at the latest bachelor party trends you should be aware of. Today, we are going to list a few of the don’ts that should be followed when planning a party for the groom or bride:
Don’t plan it like it’s your party: Everybody has a different idea about the ‘perfect’ party. For some guys, it may involve an adventurous bonding activity whereas for others, they may prefer a bachelor party that’s been heavily inspired by Hollywood. You may have an entirely different idea of what a fun party should be like but do remember that this is a party for the groom or bride and not for you. That’s why it’s very important to let your inner wants take a backseat while staying focused on what the star of the party actually wants. In order to make the party a success and to ensure that the groom or bride have fond memories of the occasion, it’s wise to have some idea of what they would like and to work around that.
Don’t avoid calling all his or her friends: Just because you and the groom are best buddies it doesn’t necessarily mean that all his friends are your friends. Even if you don’t know his friends or colleagues intimately, that doesn’t mean they should be left out of the party itself. Use the group discussions where you and the others will be planning each party detail to get to know them better. Meet them over coffee and stay connected through social media. That way you will all be in a much more comfortable zone when the party actually kicks off. And if you just can’t stand the sight of one or two of the groom’s friends, steel your resolve to be on your best behaviour before, during and after the party. The groom will have more respect for you and there’s no better feeling than surprising yourself as well.
Don’t shy away from talking about the bill: Picking up the phone and talking about expenses is always difficult but money is not a topic you should avoid or save for the very last. Do not assume that just because you are comfortable with shelling out a couple of grands for the bachelor party that so is everybody else. It’s possible that one or a few of the guests may even be going through a difficult situation financially and are not in a position to spare more than a few hundreds. Having an in- person meeting and openly talking about how much money each guest can spare ensures that there are no grudges or arguments later. Once a budget has been fixed, start working on the party details from there.
Do not schedule it a day before the wedding: Just like the bride, a groom needs plenty of rest at least two days before the wedding so that he is relaxed and in a great mood on the actual wedding day. If you really must have a bachelor party at any cost, ensure that it is held a few weeks or even one month before the wedding. That way you don’t eat into the bride’s or groom’s other social commitments either. Another point that must be kept in mind is to avoid doing anything dangerous at the party. Causing body injuries to the groom or bride is simply not cool and is uncalled for. Good clean fun should be the highlight.
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