One of the most frequent complaints that brides often can be heard moping about is that their respective grooms are anything but interested in the ceremony itself. In fact, it’s quite often a very clever excuse to give anytime a bride has a bridezilla breakdown. ‘Of course, I’m going all over the place. Why shouldn’t I? After all, you’re not helping are you?’ And then the hapless groom says ‘But you never asked!’
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So before you allow the stress of wedding planning to fall entirely on your delicate shoulders, you need to decide if you would rather have your fiancé by your side planning the entire event with you or if you would rather do it alone? We suggest involving him in different aspects of the planning because it’s as much his wedding as it’s yours. Here are 4 tips and ways that you can get your disinterested fiancé to become excited about wedding planning:
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Ask for his opinion
Here’s something you may have noticed about your fiancé- getting into details like just how yellow should the roses be is a question that will confuse him. Instead of getting him confused, here’s what you need to do. Take his opinion when you have around 2 -3 choices in hand and then ask him to pick one. That’ll be much easier for you to go with and for him to answer.
What’s his idea of a wedding?
Don’t assume that just because your fiancé can’t tell the difference between a Manish Malhotra and a Sabyasachi that he has zero ideas about a wedding at all! In fact, even if he doesn’t show it, it’s quite possible that he has quite a few good ideas swarming around and just waiting to be shared with you. When you do take his opinion, ensure that atleast a few elements that he considers fun and important to a wedding are actually included in the ceremony. For example, his idea of a reception may include shaking a leg with his friends and that’s why hiring a DJ is a good idea.
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Include him whenever you can
Do prospective grooms actually attend cake tasting sessions and other food tasting sessions? Well, he won’t even know you’re attending one unless you inform him. Sharing a meal together can be lots of fun and his inputs may prove an eye-opener too. Besides, this is a great opportunity for the two of you to work on something and plan together.
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Let him have 100% control of something
Weddings have always been traditionally thought of as being the lady’s domain but things are changing in that respect all over the country. Running around and making each decision by yourself is anything but easy and that’s why it’s always a good idea to let your fiancé take 100% charge of at least one activity or event at the ceremony. It could be putting together a cocktail menu for the guests, sitting with the DJ to finalise a play-list or deciding on the thank you gifts for guests.
We would love to hear your feedback and if you have any ideas on how to get your disinterested fiancé to participate in the wedding, then do let us know.
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