So, your wedding day is just around the corner, and you are hyperventilating? Trust us: this happens to most of our brides; after all an Indian wedding is a huge affair. Chances are that several guests maybe lodging at you place. You might even have to share your room with cousins. There may be late night events, pre-wedding parties and get-togethers. All these can sometimes take a toll on your health and mental well being. But, keeping a few things in mind can help you greatly. Here are 8 essential tips every bride must know for a stress free wedding:
1) Plan everything to the smallest detail but remember Murphy’s Law: Anything that can go wrong will go wrong. The key here is to not sweat the small things out. Relax, take a deep breath and repeat this to yourself: “I cannot control this situation, but I can certainly control how I react to it.” Adopt a mantra like this or others like “I am at peace”, or “I am feeling good”. Such thoughts can help you feel better about goof ups.
2) Do not always place your wedding guests in the forefront– It is natural that you want everyone to have a great time at your wedding, but please do not hold yourself responsible if they don’t’. After all; you can only please some people some of the time and not all of your wedding guests all the time.
3) Take an assessment of things you can and cannot handle: There are always people in your life whom you can count on and delegate important things to them. But there are things which you need to take care of, by yourself. So, do make a list of things that are likely to cause stress and try and avoid them if you can. If needed, take your parents into confidence and tell them how you feel.
4) Meditate: Do try and take a few deep breaths every now and then to relax and let it all out. If possible, go for a short walk, meditate or take a short nap (if your guests and schedule allows it) when things get too much to handle. Some calming music or aromatherapy essential oils can also help you relax and de-stress.
5) Stay connected with your fiancé: If it helps, stay in touch with the groom-to-be. He is probably in the same (rocky) boat you are in, and when you get a chance, get on the phone and talk to him.
6) Cut yourself some slack– It is okay not to be in control all the time. You are feeling jittery and that is okay too. There may be some underlying issues that you have not addressed: maybe you are afraid of the lifetime commitment or the change that is about to come into your life. Talk to a friend who has been through the same. It is even a good idea to discuss these things with a counselor.
7) Write it down-Jotting down your thoughts and feelings from time to time can all help you identify the root causes of your anxiety. We often have many emotions bottled up that we are unable to express. Journaling is a good method of identifying them.
8) Pamper thy self– Go for a relaxing spa, massage or even a facial. Think of these indulgences as are necessities for staying balanced during this stressful period.
Are you a soon-to-be bride? How are you coping? Do let us know in the comments section below.
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